How to Get Him to Care Again
When you’ve been with someone long enough, it’s so easy to fall into the “we-are-too-comfortable” trap. It’s simply inevitable. While there is nothing wrong with being comfortable with your partner, sometimes we forget that in order for a relationship to keep growing, we have to keep working hard. You start the relationship with passion, your man can’t stand being away from you but now you’re lucky if he doesn’t forget your birthday or your anniversary. Everything seems to be too familiar. It’s not that you don’t love each other anymore; it’s just that every relationship goes through this phase. Are there any ways on how to get him to care again?
You know that the honeymoon is over if you see him coming to bed in his super old unflattering boxers and you really don’t care about taking a shower at night anymore. You don’t find yourself making the effort to look good because you don’t think it still matters to your partner how you present yourself. If you want your man to look at you the same way he did when you first started dating, you have to get out of your comfort zone. Do some things that he wouldn’t expect you to do. If you’ve never watched a basketball game together and he’s been begging you to go to the games, book season tickets. This will make him very happy and he will surely appreciate the gesture.
Take a trip down memory lane and figure out how your man fell in love with you. Do the same things you did when you first met him. Get him a token that will remind him of the first time you met or the first time you went out. It could be a copy of the movie you saw or a box of the same chocolates he sent you when he was still pursuing you. You can also surprise him with an intimate dinner at your favorite restaurant when you first started dating. Be creative and romantic. If he cares enough about you, he would want to reciprocate. Thank him and tell him you appreciate everything he does for you. Acknowledge his efforts no matter how small they are.
If you want your boyfriend or husband to care for you again, make him feel that your feelings haven’t changed and you still love him the same way you did years ago, if not more. Show him that you are still the same woman he fell in love with, even better. Ask yourself what your partner loved most about you and maybe you can do something to remind him of that. Whether it’s your sense of humor, sunny disposition or carefree attitude that drawn him to you, it won’t hurt if he gets to see these qualities again. Make your partner feel special by doing nice things for him. Leave some sweet notes in his car like “I can’t wait to see you tonight” or “I’m the luckiest woman alive because I have you”. Sometimes as simple as “I love you” will do the trick. Don’t ever stop telling each other “I love you”.
When it comes to how to get him to care again, you have to keep thinking of ways on how to keep the fire burning. No matter how busy you are, make it a point that you have an “alone time” together. Set aside time for him and have a date night every week. Don’t take each other for granted and if possible, make your partner feel special every single day. Prepare a romantic dinner for two and cook all his favorite meals. Plan an exciting getaway that will allow you to try new things. Whatever it is that you have to do to reignite the magic, do it!