How to Get Your Girlfriend Back After a Misunderstanding
Sadly it is not just in the movies where hilarious(to everyone but those involved) misunderstandings occur resulting in your girlfriend storming out on you and swearing she will never talk to you again, wishes she had never met you, or hopes you die, etc. It’s frustrating when you know you have done nothing wrong and know that if she understood the situation she would be fine with it, perhaps even like you more. With that in mind this article gives you some pointers on what you can do to reconcile the situation and get your girlfriend back.
1. Understand Why She Is So Upset.
Rather than starting by pleading your own innocence, take a moment to see things from her point of view. Let’s say she caught you hugging her naked sister. Now you know that her sister just walked out of the shower, slipped and cracked her head on the floor and is currently delirious. It’s quite logical to you that you should be helping this poor girl out, but to your girlfriend it just looks like you are getting it on with her sister.
2. See If She Is Open To Letting You Explain.
If you are able to explain yourself then this is the best way to go, however it might not be an option. If she leaves the moment you walk into a room and burns a letter the moment you give it to her then your explanation is not going to get through. Your first job is to try and explain to her simply and clear things up. But if she’s not open to your explanation then you shouldn’t push it on her (yet!). Remember step one – she is angry and confused at the moment.
3. Get Someone She Trusts To Explain For You.
If she’s not willing to hear things from you then you need to call in help. A break-up is a difficult time for everyone, and especially when there are mutual friends involved. If things are allowed to escalate too far then it will quickly become a situation where friends have to select sides. And this sucks. Find someone who is a mutual friend and explain the exact circumstances to them. Let them know you are still in love with your ex and would really like to talk with her to sort things out. Then give them the space to do it. The right time may not arise immediately, and this friend is doing you a big favor here. You should also not be offended if they say they are not prepared to do it. Going to bat for you could be seen as choosing your side in the conflict, and that could cost them a friend as well.
4. Keep Yourself Available To Her.
One thing to remember when you want to get your girlfriend back. Make it easy for her to get in touch with you, but don’t push her into it. Ringing her every night is not going to help. If you’ve done everything above you have shown her you are sorry and you have somehow got the correct version of events to her. If she wants to come back she will, and if she does don’t expect an apology from her for her misunderstanding the situation that originally caused the break up. Just let her know how happy you are to have her back and how much you are going to enjoy being together from now on.
Most of all you need to understand that while misunderstandings are frustrating, they do happen, and we have to deal with them very carefully. You cannot be confrontational about it, you want to get your girlfriend to come back to you willingly and happily, not to be dragged or guilted back. Follow the tips above and you should be fine.