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How to Make Out, Good Tips For Beginners

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Making out can be a wonderful thing, when done correctly. It’s really not as difficult as some people would have you believe, but it’s also not as easy as other people would have you believe. In this article, you’ll learn how to make out. Good thing to know, hmm?

To Make Out, You Must Already be Kissing (Duh)

First, you should already be kissing, or about to kiss. See some of the other articles I’ve written on how to accomplish this. I would love to give you a link, but I’m not allowed to. Check my profile!

Check Your Breath!

Make sure your breath smells good. Eat a mint, or suck on a hard candy. Be sure to dispose of these before you start making out! Do NOT chew gum. It is a common misconception that chewing gum will make your breath nice. It will, for a brief time, but then after a few minutes, the gum will just make your breath stale and your mouth dry. If you are really concerned about your breath, chew the gum for just a few minutes, so your saliva is working and the sweet sugary taste is in your mouth, then quickly dispose of it. Also, try to avoid strong flavored foods before making out, like garlic, unless of course, the person you’re about to kiss has been eating the same foods.

Brush the Teeth?

The best thing you can do, obviously, is brush your teeth. If you have a really important dinner date, it might be worth your while to pack a toothbrush, or leave one in your car. After the meal, excuse yourself to the bathroom for a few minutes, and brush your teeth! Your partner will definitely appreciate this easy step that will ensure your breath is fresh and minty (I prefer mint toothpaste anyway). 🙂

When your lips meet your partner’s, begin kissing in a rhythmic motion. Keep your lips slightly open, and even think about using the tip of your tongue. Stick to one side, to get comfortable with the motion.

The Secret Word

There’s a secret word that you can say, to help you practice this motion. I read it once, in a book, and tried it out, and it’s really quite amusing and useful. It perfectly mimics the required motion of open lips, darting tongue, and gentle rhythmic motion required for good making out. I reveal this word to you, for free, on my kissing blog. How to Kiss GoodThere’s a ton of great information about how to get a first kiss, how to make out, and much more on there. After you finish with this article, go check it out!

While your lips are occupied with your partner’s lips, remember to think about what the rest of your body is doing. Use your hands to hold your partner’s face and increase the intensity of the kiss. This works for both girls and guys! A great spot to put your hand is on the soft area behind the ear. You can also place your hands on their cheek, or the back of their head. If the kissing gets really passionate, your hands can travel just about anywhere, but for slower, more sensual kissing, keep your hands near their face or neck.

Try to avoid bumping teeth. If you do, just laugh it off, and keep kissing. Don’t forget to breathe!

So, now you know how to make out. Good luck!

Source by David P Fishman


The New Cougar Dating Trend

After 20+ years of formal international research on the topic of younger men dating older women, I am seeing the Cougar dating trend changing. I am excited to see the last barrier to male/female relationships finally being dissolved and seeking its own level toward permanence. There are still older women who want a boy toy or a no strings attached relationship. They may be permanently fed up with seeking something long term, don’t want to remarry and enjoy the freedom of having a friend with benefits where there is limited or no drama. And that’s fine. As I often say on my Cougar dating site,”There is a lid for every pot.” But what I am noticing and hearing from both men and women on my site is that the younger men who are not “thrill seekers” or inexperienced at Cougar dating and the women who have gained positive experiences dating younger men and do not want to go back to dating men their age or older are looking for something more long lasting, meaningful and, dare I say it? Permanent.

Yes, statistics from my site are showing that some 90% of women are looking for love and perhaps even marriage to a younger man. The BBC reported in a documentary that 25% of our neighbors across the pond are happily married to younger men. 30% of older women are open to and dating younger men in the United States. Although there are many newcomers to Cougar dating, 45% of women who have dated younger men before and don’t plan going back to dating men their age or older. I am finding that the older Cubs, primarily mature young men in their late 20’s to 30’s and older, are interested in long term relationships, especially if they have previously dated or been married to older women. The Boy Toys (which is what I call the ‘serial players’ tend to be men from ages 18 to mid and even late 20’s who are inexperienced with women, laboring under what I have termed “The Myth of Stiffler’s Mom”, or thrill seeking with as many women as they can get preyed upon by. Yes, Virginia, the 30 year old male virgins do exist, and many of them are looking for an older woman to show them the ropes. The interesting thing is, once they experience a well rounded relationship with an older woman, they are way less inclined to suffer through the immaturity, selfishness and lack of life experience of a girl their age or younger. This is when many Boy Toys convert to devotees of Cougar dating. As one young Cub from Atlanta told me, “I was not looking for love. I wanted to hunt as many Cougars as I could and just have fun. And then I met this wonderful woman from New York.” He is totally in love; and isn’t love grand? He went from wanting to work his way up the age ladder to falling head over heels with his Cougar woman. I just love when people find each other, and as I often say, “there is a lid for every pot.”

Since Cougar dating is becoming more mainstream in the United States, more and more women are coming out of the closet. I am seeing more women from the midwest and the southern states joining the site this year over last year, when the majority of members were from larger cities such as Los Angeles. The UK and Canada have historically been “out” and you’ll be hard pressed to find anyone who has not heard the term “Cougar”. Hate it or love it, it is here to stay so women are starting to embrace it and define it for themselves. It is losing its derogatory connotation and men are finding that there is no “one definition fits all” Cougar. As the myths of the leopard print wearing, female predator gives way to soccer moms, secretaries, bank tellers, attorneys, the every day woman replaces the adolescent male fantasy, and women are becoming more comfortable looking at men 7 years or more their junior and saying, “Why not?” And more and more younger men are telling me they are falling in love with their Cougar women.

Mainstreaming Cougar dating is leading to world wide acceptance of this cross generational dating trend; a trend which is here to stay. My members are coming out of the closet to their friends and family members. Actuaries will even agree that statistically speaking, it just makes sense for an older woman to meet, date, mate and marry a younger man. I spoke with a retired Harvard trained medical doctor recently who told me that biologically it made more sense for a woman in her sexual prime to date and marry a man in his sexual prime. The women enjoy being with a man who is attentive, affectionate, energetic, vital, protective, fun and has less baggage than his older male counterpart. The men love being with a woman who is nurturing, mature, has life perspective, knows what she wants, isn’t needy, insecure or shallow. The pots have found their lids. The lids have found their pots!

It is only a natural segue and an easy look into the Cougar crystal ball to see the obvious: There will be more long term Cougar and Cub relationships and marriages just around the corner. Thrill seekers, however, need not apply.

Source by Dr. Fayr Barkley, Ph.D.


Tips On How To Attract A Scorpio Man

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Are you hoping to get into a relationship with a Scorpio? It is not going to be easy unless you’re aware of what works and how to go about it. Many people are attracted to Scorpio’s and are never able to make things work, and it stems from not understanding how to pursue such people in the first place.

Let’s take a look at some of the tips that are going to make sure the Scorpio you’re in love with is attracted to you.

Defining Scorpio Men:

Before anything else, you want to understand what Scorpio men are like. This is going to help build the foundation for the rest of your approach and how you earn their trust.

The common personality traits include:

1) Intensity

2) Resourcefulness

3) Loyalty

4) Seriousness

These are the qualities you’re going to notice in a man such as this, and it will become evident in a hurry. They will carry these traits with them all the time, and it’s going to show whenever you interact with them.

So, what do you do to attract them and woo them?

1) Don’t Lie

The first thing you want to ensure isn’t happening is lying. If you’re honest, they’re going to respect you a lot more, and it’s going to do a lot for you in the long-run.

If you lie, they will see it.

They know when a person is lying, and you are not going to get past their sensors.

Make sure you are not playing with fire in such a manner as it won’t end well!

2) Share Emotional Secrets

Too many people don’t do this, and that is where you can lose out when it comes to Scorpio’s. This doesn’t mean you spill everything in one conversation but let them into your mind a bit.

This is going to illustrate to them that you also care about loyalty and trust.

Remember, this is one of their major character traits as they love loyalty and pay attention to it from the people around them.

3) Provide Your Full Attention

Don’t start to ignore them or think they won’t notice if you zone out a bit. Everybody is prone to doing this sometimes, but with Scorpio’s, you’re playing with fire, and it won’t be an attractive quality in their eyes at all.

They’re going to see right past it, and that is not something you want.

Look to provide your full attention to them when they’re speaking as that is going to resonate with them a lot more and it will do a lot for you in the long-term.

Those who pay attention tend to win the hearts of Scorpio’s, and this is seen all the time.

With these tips, you are going to attract the man of your dreams in no time, and they won’t know what hit them. Yes, these are the tips that work, and you have to take advantage of them if you are serious about getting into a proper relationship and seeing how things work out.

Source by Chloe Jenkins


Writing For Comedy

The idea behind writing for comedy is easy enough to understand – make people laugh – but the elements that result in something that is truly funny are complex and varied. Comedy is essentially drama without the laughs, and, just as in drama writing, there are formulas to writing a successful comedy. Humor can be used in almost all aspects of writing: in conflict, in character development, in story structure, and so on.

Conflict in Comedy Writing

Conflict serves as a starting point for your story structure. It is what makes the story lead somewhere; it’s what gives your comedy a point. Conflict not only makes for easy, expandable laughing points; it can serve as motivating factors for the characters as the story develops and takes shape. Much like the three types of conflict in classic dramatic writing (man against nature, man against man, and man against himself), there are three basic types of comic conflict: global conflict, local conflict, and inner conflict.

Global conflict has to do with a character being at war with the world around him or her. In comedy writing, this can go one of two ways. First, a normal character may be placed into a comic world. For instance, in the television sitcom Arrested Development, the main character Michael stands as the voice of reason in a world that is relentlessly and hilariously against him. Alternately, a comic character can placed into the normal world. For example, the 2003 Will Ferrell film Elf placed a human who has been raised as an elf at the North Pole into real world New York City.

Local conflict has to do with man versus man. There are two ways to most effectively execute local conflict with comedic success: comic character versus a normal character or comic characters in opposition. Comic character versus a normal character places an outrageous character in opposition with a normal one. A good example of this method is television show Mork and Mindy, where Mork is the comic character and Mindy is just a normal person. Comic characters in opposition place two comically opposite characters in conflict. Perhaps it’s an obvious choice, but The Odd Couple is the perfect example of this type of conflict – their opposing comic personalities clash, making for a funny premise with plenty of room for conflict.

Inner conflict places man versus himself. This is considered by some to be the deepest type of conflict, and that’s no less true of comedy writing. In many cases, a normal character becomes a comic character in this type of conflict. A good example of this is The Mask starring Jim Carrey, where Carrey’s character is a normal person in possession of an artifact that turns him into what is essentially a cartoon character – the two sides of his personality are in conflict over which he should be.

Character Development

All that conflict leads us to where the conflict comes from – comic perspective. The most important part of a comic character is his perspective – what makes him think the things he thinks and do the things he does. It is his unique way of looking at the world. The more exaggerated the comic perspective, the funnier the character is going to be. For instance, a guy who sometimes gets paranoid is not inherently funny. A guy who is so paranoid that he spray paints his car silver (because ‘they’ can’t see silver) and makes a suit of tin foil is a good expansion of that paranoid person’s comic perspective and an effective use of exaggeration.

Exaggeration takes your character’s perspective to the end of the line, which is what will make that character funny. As such, comic perspective and exaggeration go hand in hand.

A good way to build on your character’s personality is to make the character flawed. People are more drawn to characters that have recognizable flaws – nobody is perfect, and if your character is imperfect in a hilarious way, you’ve got relatable humor.

Further development can be made in revealing your character’s humanity. The Comic Toolbox describes humanity as “the sum of a character’s positive human qualities that inspire either sympathy, empathy, or both.” Humanity unites your character with the audience, allowing sympathy and empathy to work at making the viewer care about your character. It’s important in all aspects of writing, but, in comedy, if a joke relies on the audience having any emotional bond with the characters and the humanity is not there, the joke will fall flat and people probably won’t be interested.

Concepts to Build On

Humor and comedy go back as far as writing itself; and, as in any art, most of the groundwork has been laid. It is important to know where the ideas have been developed and which concepts are the most solid ground for expansion, so that you have some direction with your writing and so you don’t wind up reinventing the wheel. Building on the concepts that have already been established as tried and true is the best way to ensure that you will get the most laughs.

Clash of context is one such example of a tried and true comedic concept. In general, the unexpected is what takes us by surprise and makes us laugh – clash of context takes advantage of this effect by taking something from where it belongs and places it where it does not.

There are a few ways to incorporate clash of context into comedy writing. Physical juxtaposition puts the items that clash physically close to one another. Emotional juxtaposition would place something emotional in an impassive setting or vice-versa – for instance, a hot dog vendor selling in the aisles at a funeral. Attitudinal juxtaposition has to do with the aforementioned conflict development strategy comic characters in opposition. The clash of context between the character’s personalities is what makes this strategy humorous.

Exaggeration is another important tool of the comedy writing trade. This one has a lot of range – it can, and should be, incorporated into many of the concepts and strategies discussed here (exaggeration of comic perspective, discussed previously, is one such example). Everything your characters do should have some level of exaggeration -mannerisms, understanding of the world (or lack thereof), responses, and so on – exaggeration keeps the character interesting and makes everything a little bit more outrageous.

In writing jokes, build tension and release. Go over jokes and ensure the payoff is positioned optimally in the joke. “Sometimes when a joke doesn’t work, fixing it is just a matter of rearranging the parts. When in doubt, put the funny word last.” If you give away the punch line of a joke before you’ve built it up, the joke is going to fall flat because there is no element of surprise. The longer you can build to tension without the audience losing interest, the bigger the payoff is going to be.

Tell the truth to comic effect or tell a lie to comic effect. If one way isn’t particularly funny, try the other. Telling the truth to comic effect has to do with pointing out the truth and the pain of a given situation explicitly. Telling a lie to comic effect is a little bit like sarcasm. For example, if a friend were to ask you to accompany him for a day trip to the DMV, you might say, “I can’t think of a better way to spend my day!” Obviously, it doesn’t sound like a very good time at all, but saying the opposite is what’s funny.

The rule of threes is very simple: setup, setup, and payoff. This method is best used in lists. Start with two seemingly normal things that go together and add something completely outrageous as the third. As an example, “I’ve got to run some errands … the bank, the grocery store, and the crack house.” The first two are obviously normal errands, while the third is shocking and takes the reader or viewer by surprise.

As with any kind of writing, the best way to get great results from comedy writing is to begin with a rough draft. Come up with a rough draft of a joke, then go back and ask yourself what the essence, the basic idea behind the joke is. Rewrite with that idea in mind to
make the most out of the joke’s potential.

The doorbell effect is when the character has a strong certainty of the outcome of a situation, then his – and the viewer’s – expectations are shattered. A good example of this is in the opening scene of the film Super Troopers, where three stoned teens have a freak out because a police car with its siren on pulls up behind them. The teens experience vast relief when the police car abruptly passes them, but, as they discuss their close call, one notices in the rear view mirror that the same cop has somehow gotten behind them and is approaching the vehicle. The teens expected that the cop had driven away, when their expectations were shattered by the lights in the rear-view.

One concept popular to sitcoms is the running gag – use a joke several times, but tweaked in new directions each time. Tweaking the joke ensures that it is going to stay fresh, and there are ideal ways to go about it. Change some details each time – the circumstances surrounding the joke, the lead-up to the joke, and so on. Escalate the importance of the joke each time it’s told, so that by the end it’s a proper laugh-riot. Lastly, change the source of the joke – have a different character make the joke.

Comic stories

The center and eccentrics approach to comic stories regards an everyman surrounded by comic characters. The audience relates to the everyman and experiences a bizarre comic world through his eyes.

A “fish out of water” approach places a normal character in a comic world or a comic character in a normal world. With a normal character in a comic world, the viewer experiences life in this new, hilarious world through the eyes of the normal, relatable person. With a comic character in the normal world, the viewer experiences what life is like when you’re new to the everyday.

Character comedy has to do with direct emotional war between strong comic opposites. This incorporates the character conflict “man verses man” into plot development.

Some comedy writing has its emphasis on supernatural powers as a driving comedic factor. The powers are used as a plot device to put the character into unique situations – like in the television sitcom Bewitched. It is important to keep in mind, when writing for powers, not to be hackneyed about it. The same old thing just won’t do because nobody will care, so if a writer chooses to pursue this method it absolutely must be original.

Ensemble Comedy is when there isn’t one main character, but rather the emphasis is on a group and how they interact. This is good for multiple intersecting storylines and is most apparent in sitcoms such as Friends or Seinfeld. While there are main characters to each of these sitcoms, the larger emphasis is placed on interpersonal character interaction.

One of the easiest – and least respected – comic story structures is an emphasis on slapstick. Slapstick is generally thought of as shallow and simple, though there is value in incorporating some slapstick in situations where there is something lacking.

The last type of comic story to be discussed is satire and parody. These can be the most challenging types of stories to make original and hilarious, but the payoff is great if you can pull it off. These are not only funny and relatable, but are oftentimes socially relevant. A good example of this is the wildly popular cartoon South Park, which often satirizes politics and parodies cultural phenomena.


Writing for comedy sounds like a lot of fun, and one might think that because it seems like a lot of fun that it is easy. This is not the case. Like any art, writing for comedy requires practice, patience, and knowledge of the underlying structures that make for quality work. The writer must consider not only what he finds funny, but what the audience will and in what context.


Vorhaud, John. The Comic Toolbox. Silman-James Press, 1994.

Perret, Gene. Comedy Writing Workbook. Sterling Publishing Co.,

Luff, Brian. “Writing Comedy Sketches That Sell”. Planet Comedy. 2008 July 25.

Source by Dave Mercier


How to Make Damiana Herb Tea

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Damiana herb tea has been used for hundreds of years to treat a variety of medical conditions, most commonly constipation and low libido. The herb itself is quite gentle and lends itself well to the tea medium. Dried leaves to make tea can be obtained from natural health stores or purchased online. The following recipe yields about 1 cup of damiana herb tea.


Many benefits are provided by taking the herb. Traditionally, it was used as an aphrodisiac, though modern science supports this as well. Recent tests show that taking damiana herb tea on a regular basis increases sperm count, increases the strength of the eggs, and improve blood flow and stimulation. The herb is also a mood balancing agent, that boosts the overall feel and brings a general feeling of well-being.

It has also been shown to regulate hormonal imbalances in women during menopause. Damiana also boosts energy and reduces the detrimental effects of exhaustion. Additional uses include being a laxative, astringent, diuretic, antiseptic and cough suppressant. If you can’t find a reason to take this herb, you aren’t looking hard enough.

Making the Tea:

The process of making the tea is simple, and is similar to making tea from traditional tea leaves. However, using dried leaves makes it more difficult than simply soaking tea bags in water. Begin by adding two large teaspoons of dried damiana leaves to a clean coffee mug. In a small saucepan, heat one cup of water to a boil, and then pour it into the mug over the damiana leaves.

Allow the tea to steep in the mug for 15 to 20 minutes. During this time, the flavor and essence of the tea leaves is being extracted into the water. After this time has passed, strain the tea into another clean coffee mug and discard the excess tea leaves. Drink the warm tea immediately for optimal health benefits.

You can improve the flavor of the damiana herb tea by adding a number of different ingredients. Adding a teaspoon of pure honey, for instance, will sweeten the flavor substantially. However, granulated or refined sugar should never be used as this can be detrimental to the healing components of the tea. Otherwise, a small amount of lemon juice can be added if desired.

Side Effects:

Though damiana can be taken in large quantities with no real detrimental effects, the long term effects are yet to be tested. Damiana herb tea should not be consumed by pregnant women or by children under the age of 13. Additionally, people suffering from diabetes should not take this herb. Always consult a doctor or herbalist prior to consuming any type of herb on a regular basis.

Source by Caryn Windfield


How to Make a Stress Ball – A Simple No Mess Method of Making Stress Balls

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Using a stress ball is a great way to relieve stress.They can also help improve coordination, prevent arthritis and rheumatism, stimulate blood circulation and assist with meditation.

In this article, you’ll discover a simple no mess way to make your own stress balls. I’ve added a new technique to the usual method of trying to fill a half inflated balloon with corn starch or flour. If your not careful, using this method can often result in you being covered in a cloud of corn starch when you try to fill the balloon. With the method outlined below, you will completely avoid this problem, which makes the whole process of home made stress balls simpler, more enjoyable and less stressful!

To make your own stress balls just follow the instructions below:

Items you will need:

1. A small, thick round balloon.

2. An empty 2 litre plastic drinks bottle.

3. Corn starch or flour for filling the balloon.


1. Put your corn starch or flour, into the empty 2 litre plastic bottle.

3. Stand the bottle upright and put the balloon over the bottle rim without inflating it.

4. Squeeze the bottle to partly fill balloon with air.

5. While still squeezing the bottle, turn it upside down and shake the corn starch or flour down into the balloon.

6. Release the bottle, and work the excess starch back out of the balloon, along with any excess air. This allows the starch to settle and any excess filling goes back into the bottle.

7. Pinch the end of the balloon at the bottle rim and turn the bottle back upright, remove the balloon and tie it off as near to the filling as you can.

After you finish making your stress ball, you can decorate it with stickers, or paint a face on it. Just make sure you use decorations that won’t irritate or rub off on your hand when it is squeezed.

And that’s it. You have now learned how to make a stress ball for a fraction of the cost of buying one from a shop. They may not last quite as long as a commercially made stress balls, but there so easy and quick to make that you can simply replace them any time you need to.

Source by Tom Canavan


10 Superstar Networking Tips to Grow Your Business

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One of the best investments you can make as a solopreneur or business person is in your personal development. As a business owner you can only grow as far as your skills and knowledge can take you.

That’s why attending seminars, conferences and workshops is such a valuable experience.

I recently attended the WOW (Woman of Worth) Conference in Vernon BC and it was a fantastic experience. The founder, Christine Awram, has been holding these conferences for several years. Each event promises excellent motivational and inspirational speakers plus great opportunities to meet and mingle with like-minded women.

This year was exceptionally great due to one of our clients, Dana Smithers, being invited to be one of the keynote speakers.

She talked about the Law of Attraction and started a chain reaction of events that lead me to being up on stage taking a bow to a standing ovation! (The exercise was to put my intention out to the world that I am open to receiving speaking opportunities so hey, if you know of any… )

In addition to gaining next-level strategies, events like these offer an incredible opportunity to meet prospects, JV partners, and vendors.

So how can you make the most of your next event? Here’s some pro tips to network like a superstar.

1) Rock Your Appearance. Let your outfit be a conversation starter. Wear something that makes you feel like a million bucks and helps you radiate confidence.

Bring a killer accessory like a unique pin, scarf, or pair of shoes that gets you noticed. Make a great first impression that makes people think “I have to meet that person.”

2) Prepare Yourself Mentally. Know your purpose for being there. Be passionate about what you do and let it shine.

What do you want to learn? Look at the list of speakers and make a point to say hello to them. Ask yourself what 3 types of people you’d like to meet. Get specific. Visualize these people in the morning before the workshop or conference begins.

This will help you attract exactly the right type of connections you will benefit most from.

3) Show Up Early. Arrive with extra time so you can grab a coffee, visit the vendor tables, and get to know a few people before everything starts to get busy. Be on the lookout for people with whom you feel you can connect with and strike up a conversation with them.

Attending early also gives you an opportunity to get a seat close enough to better see and hear the on-stage happenings.

4) Be a Giver. Have you ever met someone whom you feel wants to get something from you? It gives off a bad negative energy, doesn’t it? Avoid this from happening to you by shifting your energy to one of abundance and ask yourself how you can best serve others.

When you meet someone be curious. Get to know them. Ask questions. Find out how you can help this person.

There is always a resource, compliment, connection, book, tip, or tool that you can offer to help someone.

Can you interview them on your podcast? Can you review their book on your blog? Can you co-host a webinar with them? While I was at the WOW event, I recorded 3 video eTips and did a couple of Facebook LIVE videos. How can you capitalize on your time in a similar manner?

5) Ask for Their Business Card. It is always better to ask for the other person’s card. Asking for their card feels better than shoving yours in their hand.

Plus that leaves you in control so that you can send a follow-up when you return from the event.

Write a note about what you learned or spoke about with them on the card so you can reference it when you write them afterwards.

6) Share the Event Socially. Social Media is a great tool for building and maintaining relationships. Take plenty of pics at the event to share on social media.

Do Facebook LIVE on location. Your followers want to see where you are. Take pictures with the speakers and other people you meet.

This is me with Christine after the event was over. As you can see, wine is a big part of her brand. That and chocolate!

Plus you can send these pictures to the friends you meet in your follow up.

Try tagging them on social media and give them a shout out saying how nice it was to meet them. You can attach a picture with them in a follow-up email. This is a heartfelt way to share warmth with a new connection.

7) Switch it Up. Try sitting with different people at lunch. Join groups for after workshop dinner and conversation. Sometimes the chit-chat that occurs before and after the event can lead to the best connections.

8) Step Up to the Mike. If there is a Q&A opportunity, step up to the microphone and let your question be heard. You’ll get a chance to introduce yourself to the whole room and get expert answers to your question.

Often times people will come up to you afterwards and say how they related to what you shared.

9) Give a Testimonial. If you loved the event, be vocal about it. Tell the event coordinator and offer a testimonial. You can also record a Facebook video testimonial and tag the event coordinator on social media.

Email a written testimonial to the event host. They may post it on their website and give you massive exposure.

10) Love ’em Up. There is a Chinese proverb that says “A bit of fragrance clings to the hand that gives flowers.” When you get back home after the event, the most important part is following up with and nurturing relationships you made.

Here it’s a strategy of quality, not quantity. Sort through the cards you received. Narrow them down to the few people you had a real connection with and send a warm, genuine email.

Is there any further suggestion or resource you can send them as a follow-up to your conversation? You want them to experience their life is better now having met you.

And don’t forget to post to your social media accounts and send an email to your list about your experience too!

Attending industry conferences or seminars keep you up-to-date with the latest changes that are occurring within the industry. But equally valuable is the chance to meet other like-minded individuals and build connections that can last a lifetime.

Source by Susan Friesen


Learn How to Create a Chunky Look For Your Hair

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Is chunky and separated hair something you would like to achieve? If you want to add volume and style to your hair, try separating it into pieces. Here are some tips and techniques for creating piecey hair.

Look for suitable product choices. Piecey sections to the hair can be accomplished with the proper products. In order to know what you need for a piecey look, you can visit you local salon or even the hair product section at a discount store. Purchase hair wax, gel or fixative made just for your kind of hairdo. Since you just need a single product, you should investigate to discover the ideal one for your tresses. 

Your hair should be dry when beginning to style. The hair should be dried thoroughly as the first step to achieving the chunky look. Using the blowdryer will completely dry it. It is impossible to get piecey hair, if it’s wet. (You will face difficulty if the products stick to each other. 

Put the products on your hair. After buying the right type of product for your hair, take a small portion of the product on your fingertips and apply fully to your hair when it is dry. The center of the hair shaft is to be caught hold of. (Don’t put it too close to the top, or your hair will cling to your scalp, giving it a greasy appearance.). Next, draw your fingers down the length of your hair. Exercise caution and apply product sparingly to avoid ending up with oily, not piecey tresses. Keep picking out random sections all over your scalp till you get the look you want. As you go, you may need to reapply the product to your fingertips. Make sure that the product is not visible when the thick chunks of your hair are dry. The idea is that the piecey style should look like the natural state of your hair. 

This works for any hair length. Almost hairstyle will look elegant if you create a chunky look. Since the different layers of hair are accentuated, short layered hair looks great. But also, since piecey looks break up the length of the hair with some volume and style, for longer hairstyles they are great. Whatever may be the length of your hair or the hair style you have, within a short time, you can get a chunky look to your hair using one product. The outcome will be quite rewarding.

Source by Tiffany Provost


Graphology at Home – Lesson 5 – The 'i' Dot

When the capital letter I-the ego-is written huge, this is the image the writer has of himself. Surely he is extremely egocentric, a megalomaniac.

A block letter shows culture, someone who reads. This is the capital I found in most books.

The unadorned I shows nothing extra and similarly indicates the person who sticks to the simplest essentials.

The large, ugly I with hooks is the sign of egotism and greed. This writer is all out for himself, willing to avoid responsibilities.

The I that looks similar to the number 1 shows a relationship to numbers. Often these people are found to excel in mathematics.

When the I dot is to the right, it is referred to as the post placed i dot. This writer’s thoughts run in front of his actions, and his writing shows speed. His urge is to finish his task without worrying about exact details.

The pre-placed i dot, which is to the left, shows procrastination, caution, lack of self-confidence, repression. The left, represents the past (the writer lives in the past), whereas the i dot to the right of the stem-the post-placed- i dot represents the future.

The exactly placed I dot above the stem is the sign of accuracy, perfection, excellent judgment, excellent memory, strong adherence to details. This writer often has a matter-of-fact personality. He is not only careful in dotting the i, but places it exactly where it belongs. This shows concentration. Many judges and scientists dot their i’s in this fashion.

The i dots which are exactly above the i stem are often found among people who are considered highly moral people. They usually take strongly conservative points of view, in contrast to the writers of the post-placed i dots, who are more likely to be liberals. The post-placed writer lets himself go, whereas the exacting writer weighs every action.

The high-flying dot shows the person whose thoughts are high in the sky. He is generally unrealistic, but if he attains his improbable goals, he does so in a big way.

When an i dot is not really a dot, but a vertical line, it is a sign of criticism, of a person who has a strong concern with principles. Not only does the shape of the dot seem like a descending knife, but it can also pass for an exclamation point, demonstrating emphasis.

An i dot formed of a circle reflects the eccentric-sometimes mildly so, sometimes not so mildly. These people show mild neurotic tendencies and are frequently unable to face reality. They go after fads quite often and are of an artistic nature. The late artist Walt Disney wrote a similar i dot. It is interesting that his circled i dot looks very similar to Mickey Mouse’s round ears.

The very light ‘i’ dot indicates a lack of willpower, possibly physical weakness or even illness, as if the person did not have the strength to dot the i properly. (A light t bar obviously shows the same meaning.)

When we see an i dot joined to another letter (and for that matter, any letter that requires a dot or bar), it shows a clever combination of thoughts-doing two things in one shot, so to speak. These are the personalities of chess players, people who can solve abstract and intricate puzzles and make logical deductions.

When the i dot is an arc that opens at the left side, it is a sign of the neurotic, untrustworthy personality. He shies away from the system. The arc, which is regarded as the eye, is looking toward the left indicating a lack of trust in somebody he has been involved with in the recent past. (It is often the untrustworthy person who does not trust others)

When the i dot is in the form of an arc open to the right, it is the sign of the observer. The arc itself looks like an eye staring at something.

When the dot is directly over the stem and heavy, it indicates good memory, sound judgment, and the ability to do detail work. You often find this writer to be very materialistic and in a state of depression. (Heaviness in writing shows the physical, and the physical brings on materialism.) Regarding the depression, it seems to be a weight on the writer’s head, carrying an extra load.

When the dots are more like dashes, they signify energy, worry, and irritability. If you go over these dots yourself, you can almost feel liveliness, irritability, and also a certain degree of speed. When the i needs a dot and precision is really necessary, this writer flings his pen in such a manner as to make the dots into dashes. It shows he does not care, because there is something bothering him.

When the i dots look more like commas or arcs, they are signs of humor, wit, and gaiety. If you look closely at them, they resemble laughing mouths.

An i without a dot may simply indicate speed (which would have to be checked with the rest of the writing). Otherwise, the dotless i shows forgetfulness, carelessness, neglect. This is also true of the t bar without the bar.

A note about genius: There is no hard-and-fast rule for recognizing genius through a person’s handwriting. However, certain signs often do appear in the script of great-minded men: high upper-zone extension (without loops), and/or very small, or even microscopic, middle zones. (There is no particular guideline to the lower zones.)

Generally speaking, since the middle zone is the social area, the larger it is, the less the powers of concentration. Thus, the great mind tends to show in his handwriting a willingness to give up the social world for more intense powers of concentration.

Since the average size of a zone is 3 millimeters, anything under this size we call small and the smaller in size it gets, the stronger the concentration, usually at the expense of sociability.

Other traits commonly found in the handwriting of the genius are tremendous speed and sloppiness, indicating that the person’s thinking is so far ahead of his writing that he has no time for meticulous penmanship.

Although a genius may position many of his t bars and i dots well to the right of the stem, he will place others with great precision, for, however rapidly he may be thinking, much of his work requires exactitude as well as speed.

A form that frequently turns up in the writing of someone with a high IQ is a g made in the shape of a figure 8, showing speed plus a certain grace.

May we digress to the subject of legibility?

The fact of legibility in handwriting and its degree are not so easy to establish. We read whole words at a time, some of us whole phrases. Consequently, one or even several illegible letters in a word will not prevent us from correctly guessing what the word is from the context. As experienced readers, we really do not mind a not wholly legible hand. As graphologists, we must be less lenient.

To establish the legibility of handwriting, we must try to read it word by word. Only when handwriting proves to be legible in a word-by-word examination can it be pronounced legible.

To interpret a hand graphologically, on the basis of its legibility, we must ask ourselves why a person may choose to write, yet at the same time write illegibly. Lip service is the phrase that comes first to our mind. To let the gesture stand for the act is the intent of one who writes but does so illegibly. Or he may consider himself so superior that reading his missive is the recipient’s duty; conceit and arrogance, therefore, may also lead to illegible handwriting.

Or we may write the message though we would prefer to keep its contents to ourselves. In this case, it may be affectation of mysteriousness, or neurotic anxiety, or psychotic suspiciousness, or perhaps even a persecution complex that blurs our hand. It was distrust that created cipher or code writing.

Paranoia or persecution mania, to be sure, does not make handwriting wholly illegible. On the contrary, paranoiacs often write meticulously legibly, as though trying their best not to arouse any suspicion. But there simultaneously appear certain isolated illegible characters or words;

they look like corrections, but the result is always almost
complete illegibility. Paranoiacs seem to be feverishly bent on improving themselves and apprehensive over what might be misinterpreted and criticized by others, but it probably is part of their mental disorder not to succeed but rather to make things still worse.

A person with an illegible or neglected hand cannot be called either sincere or co-operative. For if he has nothing to hide, or really wants to be understood by his neighbor, why should he write illegibly? We must assume that he does not care whether or not we can read his letter. This is not the way of a considerate person. Indeed, inconsiderateness, carelessness, (in clothing, too), insincerity, and even bad manners may be observed in people with barely legible hands. Very probably, they would also be unpunctual, disorderly, and indolent. There was a time when well-educated people, and especially intellectuals, thought it beneath them to write a legible handwriting. Freud has, I think, interpreted the illegible hand of doctors, for instance, as part of their professional pride and secretiveness; they do not want the layman to understand their notes obviously reserved for other doctors or pharmacists. However, it is quite conceivable that some scientists or thinkers, very much detached from the world, forget that others may also wish to read their writings: (Einstein obviously is not one of these; his handwriting is legible).

People with little training in penmanship do not write illegibly or carelessly. Their writing may look rather helpless, untrained, but it is often remarkably legible.

A person’s illegible signature does not admit of any complimentary interpretation. For how much trust can be placed in a document if the signature that is to prove the signer’s determination to carry out his promises cannot be deciphered? In a sense, an illegible signature annuls the document it pretends to put in force. (Only an anonymous ¬letter or a ransom note goes well with an illegible signature.) A special kind of illegible signature, the paraph, is used by people who think they are above the necessity of identifying themselves by means of their signature. The best-known case is Napoleon and the man with Napoleonic aspirations. If a man thinks of himself as one whom everybody must know and blindly obey, why should he bother to write his signature legibly? Indeed, a paraph will suffice. If examination of the handwriting sample reveals that here and there, one letter stands for another very plainly, for example, an l for a b or an h for a k, we know from experience that the sample originated with a liar, a swindler, or a cheat.

(“Adolf” in Adolf Hitler’s signature)

Indistinct figures are made by careless people and people whose attitude in financial matters is not clear. But figures that can be misread, for example, a 5 for an 8, or a 1 for a 7, and so on, are associated with fraudulent intentions on the part of the writer.

Legibility, on the other hand, is characteristic of sincere individuals and of people who have a good capacity for purposeful work. Legible handwriting may also be associated with orators, teachers, and pedants; the style value will tell us whether the hand is that of a great teacher or merely a pedant’s.

There are some peculiarities regarding the pace of writing, which we must know in order to draw correct conclusions. For instance, Saudek found that tall letters, such as f, are always more quickly written than minimum (small) letters, such as i; therefore, a small script is always more reluctantly formed than a sizable one. The rounded letters are produced “without pause,” angular formations never without “stopping for a fraction of a second before the transition from one direction to the other.” The angle writer, therefore, is always a hedger. The same holds true of handwriting with many broken lines, or with many changes in direction, particularly left-tending strokes (in a writing movement, which, as ours, is mainly right tending). “No one is capable of making a dot when writing at a high rate of speed, but will instead produce… a comma or accent.” Similarly, a spontaneous writer will not place the dots exactly over the i’s. On the other hand, only ¬spontaneity can produce a straight line, a slowly executed straight line being necessarily broken. Moreover, spontaneity will always slant its writing to the right; upright or left¬ slanted writing is never formed spontaneously.

Examination for Lesson 5

1. What type of capital shows extreme egocentricity?

2. The ‘unadorned’ capital indicates what type of personality?

3. Which ‘i’ dot reflects procrastination?

4. Which type of ‘i’ dot discloses strong adherence to details?

5. What does the ‘i’ dot joined to another letter reveal?

6. Which ‘i’ dot reveals humor, wit, and gaiety?

7. Intense powers of concentration are frequently found in the script of the genius.

Describe this unique type of writing and the zone.

8. Code writing was created because of trust-or the opposite?

9. When certain isolated illegible words appear, which type of mania is suggested?

10. Sincerity and co-operating are more likely to be found in legible or illegible script?

A. Legible B. Illegible

11. Who are ‘known’ to write illegibly so that the layman will not understand their notes?

12. An illegible signature annuls or confirms the document it pretends to put in force?

A. Annuls___ B. Confirms___

13. Do spontaneous writers place the dots exactly over the ‘i’s or not?

Answers for Lesson 5

1. One that is enormous

2. The person who sticks to the simplest essentials.

3. The pre-placed i dot

4. The i dot that is exactly above the stem.

5. It shows a clever combination of thoughts-doing two things in one shot, so to speak. These are the personalities of chess players, people who can solve abstract and intricate puzzles and make logical deductions.

6. i dots that look more like commas or arcs. (They resemble laughing mouths).

7. Very small, or even microscopic, middle zones. The middle zone is the social area, the larger it is, the less the powers of concentration. Thus the great mind tends to show in his handwriting a willingness to give up the social world for more intense powers of concentration.

8. The opposite

9. Paranoia or persecution mania

10. Legible

11. Doctors

12. Annuls

13. They do not place the dots exactly over the ‘i’.

Source by Joel Engel


Important Factors That May Affect the Learning Process

Learning comes in different forms and its importance varies from person to person. If someone is taking it lightly then it is something which is very easy to learn, but on the other hand some people think of it as an extremely difficult task to accomplish. However, teachers are always there to help to overcome the obstacles and make learning uncomplicated. They make learning easier for students helping them understand the knowledge or information better.

Learning is a joint effort, as in most of the cases the process of learning involves both the learners and the teachers to make learning effective and obviously the effort should be mutual. At the same time it is important to see if the teacher is effective and applying the proper techniques while teaching the students. All these depend upon the experience and the level of understanding of the teacher. It is often observed that a particular teacher possesses sufficient amount of knowledge, but lacks when it comes to effective teaching techniques. Keeping these factors in mind a number of teacher training institutes have come up and taken the initiative to improve the quality of teachers. These institutes offer a range of teacher training courses that cater to the teachers to hone their teaching skills emphasizing the modern and improved teaching techniques.

Learning itself is a very interesting as well as simple process provided the learner identifies the importance of knowledge properly. It is the teacher who has the responsibility of making the learning process effective for the learner. There are a number of learning procedures but it may happen that a particular technique that proves effective for one person may not be effective for another. Therefore it is necessary to analyze the factors that influence the learning process to implement the appropriate learning approach for an individual.

The effective factors are listed below:

Intellectual factor: Intellectual factor indicates a person’s mental state and level. It depends on the intellectual level of an individual to understand the performance at school, for example a task given by the teacher can appear to be simple and easy for a student with higher intellectual state whereas in case of a student with lower intellectual state the same task may seem to be very difficult. That is why, students with weak intellectual quotient face a number of difficulties in school and it is the responsibility of the teachers to help the students in uplifting their moral state and confidence to work further and harder for completing the learning assignments. There are special cases where students are found to have learning disabilities. In such cases, it is the responsibility of the teacher to take extra care to overcome the obstacles those students face and make the learning process less difficult for them.

Physical factors: Sometimes, learning also get affected by the physical factors or physical disabilities of the students that includes health, visual and physical defects, nutrition, physical development and glandular abnormality. In rural and underdeveloped areas, many students suffer from malnutrition and several other diseases relating to the eating disorder. There are children who suffer from visual, auditory and other physical disabilities which prevent them in developing their skills like reading, writing, spelling etc. So, different health hazards also affect the learning capabilities of the students in a bigger way.

Mental factors: Children can be defiant, naughty and sometimes impulsive as well, which is absolutely normal at their age but some children are very difficult to handle and have extremely difficult and challenging behaviors that seem to be completely out of the league. These children with attitude disorders lead them towards different mental disorders that can act as a barrier to learning. Bad attitudes are also responsible in developing major personality problems. Sometimes the major mental disorders require doctor’s consultation but that is only when the student is advised to seek the medical attention by the concerned teacher. If the teacher is able to identify the existing disorder in his/ her student faster, the quicker will be the intervention that can ensure a better future for the student. As more importance is given on learning disabilities among students in recent times, institutes are providing teaching training courses that focuses on teaching students with special conditions where teachers are trained to cope with difficult situations like these.

Teacher’s Personality: It is recommended for the teachers to have pleasant and positive attitude towards the students. It is important for a teacher to have a radiant personality and value discipline. According to many educationalists the supreme responsibility of a teacher is not restricted to monitor the routine duties but to lead as well as inspire the students develop a positive personality.

There are several other essential factors which are capable of bringing significant changes in the learning process and with little care and devotion those barriers can be easily removed. Several pre and primary teacher training courses are available to help teachers adopt new methods of learning and bring sufficient improvements in their behaviors towards the students which will be beneficial for the students.

Source by Sayak Pal